intimacy
As we have come to be human beings not by our own fault, our parents messed around, and here we are. We were engineered with the deep desire for intimacy. Intimacy is that state of being we're in I know someone else, I know what they believe, what they think, how they feel, how they are going to act, and what they desire to have without having to tell me so. In that state of intimacy, my desire for them greater than my desire for myself will cause me to their desires ahead of my own, and actually begin doing things for them that I believe we're about to ask me to do without them having to ask. We think of intimacy in marital terms . We go to an isle, we go to an altar, we say vows to one another where we say we are going to put the other ahead of ourselves and there well being ahead of my own. That would be the ultimate if marriages we're really about that, and most of us have enough of the tingles of the love affair still going on when we're at the altar making those vows. And at that moment when we say those things we mean them and attend to do them. The unfortunate piece about marital intimacy or intimacy in any relationship if it isn't nurtured and maintained it can dissipate, and actually a love affair can turn into a hatred. Divorce happens when that occurs. Intimacy is more than just being in relationship with someone else. It is being in relationship wherein you really are more concerned about their well being than your own. It is the ultimate. We often mistake great friendships, BFF's, as intimate relationships when they aren't. Because mostly relationships formed based on mutual accommodation of self need. By that I mean, we jump into a friendship because we find someone who has something we need, and we want them to be our friend and we ask them to be our friend, but unless they need something we have and we will give them something in return, they can extract something from us in that relationship they'll say no. But if they say yes, then we can accommodate each other need by giving the other what we have they want or need. The unfortunate part of those kind of relationships, and they are certainly not intimate relationships. They are selfish transnational acquaintances wherein if one or the other sees to be able to deliver what the other has desired, and agreed to join the relationship or friendship about then there friendship breaks. Intimacy is not limited to sexual content although physically that is the highest order of intimacy. An intimate relationship can be achieved between numerous partners where in I can have several best friends forever because I am not limited to any one being my bestest friend. If I am in a relationship with another while I am with them I give them my all they got 100 me percent, not thinking of the relationships I have being mamma or brother or cousin or another friend. When I am with another friend I can give them my all, and I won't be thinking about the first friend. So I can be fully present and fully attendant and fully concerned about the other's need that is in front of me, and not take anything away from the other BFF. Its a process that takes a great process of learning how to do that because no one in my life taught me that it took mirrored of people over decades to bring me to enough truth to understand how to achieve that. The capacity of the human soul to love others is virtually infinite. I don't have a limited capacity of love such that if I decide I want to love a wife I have to stop loving mom and transfer that love to my wife. I have enough capacity to love my mom and my wife. If I have a child I do not have to stop loving my wife to pass that love onto my child, I have a larger measure that will kick in to handle the child as well. So I can love mother. I can love my wife. I can love my child. And so it goes. The open I am to relationship and developing intimacy with other beings the more other beings I can be in relationship with. Where we get into trouble is usually when intimate relationship emotionally steps over the line and physical intimacy and there is a marital infidelity. But I can be madly in love with my wife, madly in love with another woman that I will never physically have relations with, and gain great things for my soul from being in relationship with another person. So, intimacy is something we all desire, but we have limited intimacy to one marital partner in most cases, and when that tanks, when that ends up in divorce we're devastated, shot to hell, its over, and that ought not be. We have several intimate relationships if our marriage happens to crumble we are not devastated we can move on because we have a great support system of others who care for us in the midst of our worst days, So we will be conducting webinars again. There is no formula ever for intimacy, but there is a huge difference between intimacy and intensity, or intimacy and ecstasy. Many of us are in relationships where intense about someone. But intensity does not equate to caring more for their well-being than my own. Intensity can be I want to be with you strongly. I'm just freakin lonely, and I'll suck you dry. Some of us have been around people like that. You can't stand it because they drain you. Ecstasy is that momentary thrill of some kind of personal euphoric moment that only lasts for a moment. Be like a one night stand as compared to a marriage of a lifetime. So neither intensity nor ecstasy provide the same thing that intimacy provides. Intimacy is an on-going, other caring, that someone else is caring for me helps me get through anything and maybe everything, So these webinars will be conducted over a course of months. You may need to continue for years. Join us. You have been misinformed about relationships on several accounts. You have misperceptions about relationship on several levels because well meaning and intentionally nice people who were sincere we're sincerely wrong about a lot of things of relationships in general, and intimacy in particular. Before you can move forward to a place of intimacy, if you are not there already and not living in that and understand how it works and sharing with others you must unlearn the things that you been told that were wrong or misleading about intimacy in relationship in order to learn the new one. One by one we will dismantle the misperception about relationship and build upon the rock of solid truth of what relationships are, how they are forged, and how they become intimate. Join us for the webinar. Stick with this as long as you can. If you already deeply intimate in relationships and you understand these concepts, then go and teach others. Join us if you will, and we will help you find what we have found that has transformed our lives, given us a stress free life now and always, and has brought us to the place of absolute peace and contentment in our pursuit of prosperity, popularity, and power as it relates to sharing all of those things with another with their well being in mind before our own. Its the best, highest, greatest way to experience love, joy, and peace at all times regardless of your individual sucky circumstances.